My kid hates me

My Kid is almost 14 years old. Slightly autistic, slightly tourette's syndrome, slightly adhd, and is growing into someone I don't know.

Discovered today a bit of a situation with our rabbit, chickens and goats. No details. Grounded from tv, computer, movies. Was told "I hate you" and "I wish I was dead" and "I'll just leave then you won't have to worry about me".

Don't know what to do.

Want to eat my baggie of dark chocolate chips and a big ole spoonful of peanut butter. But I'm out of calories for the day.

So I won't.

Gave up cigarettes to have this kid, and then again to get married almost 4 years ago. Don't drink much any more and besides, it's got calories I don't have. My legs hurt so exercycling is out. My left arm feels like jello.

I gotta figure out a better way to handle my problems. Eating won't solve anything except hunger. So what do I do to solve this problem? How can I help my Kid become a better person?

And I can't eat to cover up the pain.

Maybe I'll just veg in front of the TV.

It's not exactly healthy but it's not destructive either.


Karla said...

Kids, they can suck sometimes, we love them but gees pees, those teen years are tough. Veg away!!!

Twix said...

Teen years are tough! There tough on us but I think more so on them, so many changes going on. He might need some solid male figure that's not his parents to talk with. Anyone you can trust?

Maybe a nice long hot soahk in the tub will help ya. I feel for you, it's not easy.

kristi said...

My son is autistic and he is hurtful a lot! Normally I go outside and walk, or just jam out to some music! And try not to take it personal although it is hard.

Cammy said...

I have no kids, so I don't know the best choice for handling it. Certainly a discussion with his physician couldn't hurt. It may just be rampaging hormones and all that goes with that (teen drama), but it might help to know that, especially considering the animal abuse, which you surely don't want to see escalate. I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear you are having a hard time with your son.

Just the decision not to eat over this is such a positive direction to take.

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Anonymous said...

Hi Vee... new follower to your blog. Sorry about the kid hated me a couple of times in her teen years as well, but it always blew over. If she said something like that I'd let it go at the time and then talk to her later about it when she was happier. It still sucks though, but you're right...eating will not help...damn it!

Becki said...

He dosent really hate you, he is just mad and trying fighting the change of getting older. All you can dois love him and yourself and this will pass as all things do. In the mean time, do things for you to make you happy. THere were alot of good ideas posted on here.